This morning on my way to work, something I saw made me think. It’s funny, because I’ve seen this same sight over and over again throughout the past several years that I’ve lived here where pastures and cows are ubiquitous.
Today, though, something connected. Something shifted. My paradigm tilted just a smidgen and another of the veils of obscurance were lifted. This happened so plainly, it was as if the optometrist had flipped back a lens that had been blurring my vision.
Two bulls were head to head in the field.
That’s what I saw, and that’s what prompted a whole lot of thinking. Strange, I know, for something so insignificant to be so thought-provoking. I’ve seen them do this before, all the time, in fact. Yet this time, I was *there*, present in the moment and the moment was all that existed. Surreal, but it didn’t turn any wheels yet. Then a little farther down the road, I saw the same scene, except this time the bulls weren’t equally matched. It was then that I received insight.
I guess it could be dangerous to experience surreal moments like these while driving, but so far, so good…
Anyway, none of this is earth-shattering revelation. Haha. It just meant something to me and is likely meaningless to the rest of the population. However, I’m sure at some point down the road, the experience of it, if not the insight, will turn up in a story somehow.
So here’s what came to mind when I saw the bulls. In the first set of bulls, they were equally matched – same size, same color, same breed and apparently of equal strength. Neither were able to budge the other. They just stood there forehead to forehead – eye to eye. See, it was the ‘eye-to-eye’ part that got me. I’ve heard the expression all of my life, but I never *understood*. Now, after seeing it in practice, I understand.
The other bulls were not matched, and one was pushing back on the other and the other was giving ground. They did not see eye to eye. In fact, I knew, from that brief glimpse as I passed them, that the one giving ground was soon going to be seeing things the way the more dominant one saw it. The weaker one would agree to step down.
To see eye to eye doesn’t mean to agree. It means to agree that the other has an equally valid point. I’d always thought it meant to agree. Period. And that’s how the dictionaries define it. But now I see differently.